Update our docker-compose files to use depends_on

[Data Sync User]

links have been EOL for a while now, we should switch to using depends_on instead. I found this out by using an open source docker replacement named podman.

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[Jared Lockhart]

Docs here https://docs.docker.com/compose/compose-file/05-services/#depends_on